Iyanla Fixed My Life at Radio One Cincinnati’s Women’s Empowerment: #MissyBOnTheMove

Iyanla Vanzant is one of the best teachers I’ve had the chance to learn from. In 2013,  I heard her live for the first time at Oprah’s Lifeclass in Chicago while sitting front row in the studio audience for the Daddyless Daughters episode. Her energy and life lessons are priceless. It is truly a life changing experience to be in her presence. Below is a picture I took of her from my seat. After snapping the picture, she asked me to tag her in my Instagram post.

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On Saturday I had the chance to get my life fixed while she was in Cincinnati as the keynote speaker for Radio One’s Women’s Empowerment. Since I believe knowledge is power and I live by the idea that when you know better, you do better, I decided to share the golden nuggets she dropped on me. Below are some notes about a woman’s role depending on what “clan” she is in.

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Women in their 30’s; These years are about mothering and being a wife. During this time your job is create, beautify, nurture and teach.

Women in their 40’s: These are the years that you become a woman. Your gift is power. These years are about what’s in your heart and your true being, not about your beauty. By this time in your life, you have learned to pray.

Women in their 50’s: You should be standing in your success. You are wise and have some lessons behind you.

Women in their 60’s: You are the elders. You have done your work, so stop working and start living. You should just be sitting in your majesty.

Iyanla’s message was that ‘You Matter.’ What you do matters. What you think matters. How you respond matters and how you spend your time matters. You should set boundaries and learn discipline in your life.

If you ever get a chance to hear her in person. Please do so! I promise that you will never be the same.

After she hit the stage, she posed and allowed me to take a picture of her. It was like a full circle moment. See picture below.

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Be sure to follow me on Instagram and Twitter for videos and more pictures from Radio One Cincinnati’s Women’s Empowerment. I also had the pleasure of being a panelist for a discussion sponsored by Procter & Gamble on Black beauty in the media. I’m pictured below in the green, on the far left.

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O-H! Braxton Miller Will Play Wide Receiver at OSU for 2015-2016 Season

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And just like that, the three became two. Two in the race for starting quarterback for the upcoming season that is. We all know Braxton Miller had a horrible injury that caused him to watch from the sideline as the Buckeyes waltz into history with their third string quarterback to win The National Championship. There has been speculation for a while about if he would leave OSU or jockey for the chance at starting QB.

The wait is over and the verdict is in! According to Sports Illustrated, Miller said, “For the most part, it’s going to be H-Back and punt return,” Miller said in a phone interview on Thursday night. “It’s a long process to get back totally to throwing and throwing every day. This is the smarter thing for right now, God blessed me with a lot of talent and different opportunities. I’m going to have fun with that and still score a lot of touchdowns and help the team out and be dominant at that.”

All I know is, I will be watching. We are like Gremlins, “we don’t die, we multiply.” The Buckeyes has very talented and versatile players who are trained to be ready with a winners attitude. Go Bucks and cheers to the upcoming Buckeye football season.

Are You Where You Want to Be in Life?: 7 Steps to Reaching Your Goals

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It is so important to have a plan for success. If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. We all have goals and dreams, but may times, we don’t know how we are going to achieve them. If you are struggling with getting on track or getting back on track, check out Dr. Phil’s 7 steps to reaching your goals below:

1. Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors.

For a dream to become a goal, it has to be specifically defined in terms of operations, meaning what will be done. When a goal is broken down into steps, it can be managed and pursued much more directly. “Being happy,” for example, is neither an event nor a behavior. When you set out to identify a goal, define what you want in clear and specific terms.

2. Express your goal in terms that can be measured.

How else will you be able to determine your level of progress, or even know when you have successfully arrived where you wanted to be? For instance, how much money do you aspire to make?

3. Assign a timeline to your goal.

Once you have determined precisely what it is you want, you must decide on a timeframe for having it. The deadline you’ve created fosters a sense of urgency or purpose, which in turn will serve as an important motivator, and prevent inertia or procrastination.

4. Choose a goal you can control.

Unlike dreams, which allow you to fantasize about events over which you have no control, goals have to do with aspects of your existence that you control and can therefore manipulate. In identifying your goal, strive for what you can create, not for what you can’t.

5. Plan and program a strategy that will get you to your goal.

Pursuing a goal seriously requires that you realistically assess the obstacles and resources involved, and that you create a strategy for navigating that reality. Willpower is unreliable, fickle fuel because it is based on your emotions. Your environment, your schedule and your accountability must be programmed in such a way that all three support you — long after an emotional high is gone. Life is full of temptations and opportunities to fail. Those temptations and opportunities compete with your more constructive and task-oriented behavior. Without programming, you will find it much harder to stay the course.

6. Define your goal in terms of steps.

Major life changes don’t just happen; they happen one step at a time. Steady progress, through well-chosen, realistic, interval steps, produces results in the end. Know what those steps are before you set out.

7. Create accountability for your progress toward your goal.

Without accountability, people are apt to con themselves. If you know precisely what you want, when you want it — and there are real consequences for not doing the assigned work — you are much more likely to continue in your pursuit of your goal. Find someone in your circle of family or friends to whom you can be accountable. Make periodic reports on your progress.

Southpaw Movie Review: #MissyBOnTheMove

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I had the pleasure of seeing an advance screening of Southpaw last night and right off the bat, let me just say…this movie is a must see. If you like action, drama and a compelling storyline, you will enjoy this movie. Billy Hope (Jake Gyllenhaal) is a foster kid turned hot head boxing champ from Hells Kitchen, who is on top of the world until his inability to control his anger causes the death of his wife (Rachel McAdams.) Left to take care of himself and his daughter, Leila, Hope’s temper lands him broke, on edge and losing Leila down the very path he hoped to keep her from. With Leila now in child services, he returns to what he knows best to help get her back. Hope trains with Tick Wills (Forest Whitaker) for a chance to earn back his title and regain control of his life. Hope discovers that in life, we must come to grips with ourselves and find out exactly what we are fighting for.

I was interested in seeing this movie because I have been boxing at Title Boxing Grandview for about six months and have grown to really enjoy the workout. It was cool to identify moves I learned in class, but I walked away from the movie with a new outlook on life, love, relationships and comebacks. Life is so precious and “comes at you fast,” like the Nationwide Insurance commercial says. When the chips are up, everyone is in your corner, but when they come crashing down, you have face yourself and the find the strength within to bounce back.

We all have people who depend on us to make the right choices, even when we may not know how or what they may be. At the end of the day, life is about being willing to do whatever it takes to make the choices that will allow you to live your best life. The biggest take-a-way from the movie is that it’s never too late to refine who you want to be.

Southpaw also stars 50 Cent, Naomie Harris and Rita Ora. Southpaw is truly a movie about love, forgiveness and learning to fight for what matters. I give this film 4.5 out of 5 stars.

Southpaw hits theaters this Friday.

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Product Alert!: Missy B’s Natural Hair Journey Update

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Whew! There are so many products to choose from out there, I often get a little overwhelmed while on my quest to find what works best for my hair. Although I have been natural for 6 years, I am still exploring products and discovering which ones are must-haves. I’m all about ballin’ on a budget, so Suave Professionals shampoo and conditioner has become my go-to combo when I want something that works for my hair and my wallet. These products are very cost-effective and are sold at Family Dollar.

I am currently using Moroccan Infusion with Argan Oil from the Suave Professionals line. One of the great things about this product is that it’s formulated for normal to dry hair, so it should work for just about all hair types.

Below are some benefits of argan oil:

1. It restores hair to its natural shine and softness

2. It helps prevent split ends

3. It’s high in fatty acids and vitamin E, so it helps repair damaged hair.

4. It can be used for styling due to its non-greasy, lightweight texture

5. It helps control frizz

Stayed tuned for next Monday’s update on my natural hair journey. Be sure to leave a comment with your favorite products. I would love to hear what works for you.

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Scoop It Up! Today is National Ice Cream Day: Check Out Freebeis and Deals

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Yay! Today is National Ice Cream Day, so you know what that means…deals and perhaps FREE ice cream. Summer is the perfect time to enjoy your favorite flavor and your favorite place. Now, don’t go rushing to the nearest shop any expect to stick your mouth under the soft serve machine (I know you thought about it lol.) However, you can check out some freebies via Yahoo.com below:

Free Ice Cream Deals
Carvel
The deal: Buy one get one free soft serve ice cream cones. Any size, any soft serve flavor.
When: July 19th.

Cold Stone Creamery
The deal: Members of the My Cold Stone Club (free rewards club) can get a free ice cream “creation” with the purchase of one. The deal also applies to Cold Stone’s shakes, smoothies, and its new frappés.
When: July 19th.

Friendly’s
The deal: To celebrate both its 80th birthday (July 18th) and National Ice Cream Day, participating Friendly’s locations will give you a free scoop of ice cream in a cup or a cone, when you buy one for $1.99.
When: Starting at 11am July 18th through July 19th.

Dippin’ Dots
The deal: Participating Dippin’ Dots franchise locations (at malls and shopping centers) will be handing out free samples of its newest flavor, Redberry Sherbet, which is made with Sour Patch Kids.
When: July 19th.

Other Ice Cream Deals
Marble Slab Creamery
The deal: Get $3 off your entire purchase (one time only), when you use Marble Slab’s Slab Happy Rewards app.
When: All of July.

Baskin-Robbins
The deal: Free upgrade to a waffle cone on double scoop ice cream cones.
When: All of July

Another deal: As it continues to celebrate its 70th birthday and the end of National Ice Cream Month, Baskin-Robbins is taking 31% off of all ice cream sundaes at participating stores.
When: July 31st.

Graeter’s
The deal: In celebration of its 145th birthday, which happens to fall right on National Ice Cream Day, Graeter’s shops are offering $1.45 cones.
When: July 19th.

Dairy Queen
The deal: This one’s a big question mark. Since most DQ’s are independently owned and operated, we were told National Ice Cream Day revelers should call their local outpost to find out about scoring any deals. We called the Dairy Queen in Manhattan, but no discounts or freebies there.
When: July 19th

The Family That Slays Together…Sisters and Brothers Team Up for Balmain’s New Ad Campaign

 

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Yeeeeesssss! When I saw this picture of Joan and Erika Smalls, I was completely sucked in. They are killing their ad for Balmain’s Fall line.

Keeping it 100, I think Erika should consider getting her coins up on the side by taking on more modeling gigs. She looks stunning just like her sister Joan.

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You’ve probably already caught the buzz over Kendall and Kylie Jenner with their ad. Many people felt that their body placement on this ad was too racy, but what would you expect from these too. They love the spotlight.

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Bella Hadid and her sister, Gigi, are also giving crazy sex appeal. I love the color palate choice for their look.

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Don’t worry, this campaign is not just about the ladies, Armando Cabral and his brother Fernando joined the Balmain army as well. They are serving chocolate goodness for sure.

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This group shot is everything! There is so much beauty and talent between these siblings.

I must admit, I love this family affair shoot, but Joan and Erika Smalls certainly shut it all down. Their ad is fierce and captivating. From their facial bone structure to the royal accents in their looks, I love everything about them.

At the end of the day, although everyone looks great, the Smalls sisters are certainly top ranking officials this army. Salute!